A Call to Defeat the ADA Education and Reform Act in 3 Short Months

A Call to Defeat the ADA Education and Reform Act in 3 Short Months

A Call to Defeat the ADA Education and Reform Act in 3 Short Months

Dear Members of the United States House of Representatives and the Senate,

To defeat the ADA Education and Reform Act is my only 2018 New Year’s Resolution. Though I’ve never been much for resolutions in the past, this one took root after spending the final 3 months of 2017 in a manual wheelchair and a boot because of a broken foot. During those 3 months as a patron of automatic doors and handicapped accessible facilities, my understanding of what the Americans with Disabilities Act has and hasn’t accomplished changed. The most troubling reality revealed was how difficult it is for someone with disabilities who is determined to remain an independent and contributing member of society to do so.

I’m also very troubled by how difficult it is to discover the current status of the ADA Education and Reform Act. An internet search found this October 2017 op ed piece by Illinois Senator Tammy Duckworth in which she explained why she’s opposed to the bill.

“The bill would allow businesses to wait until they are notified of their failure to meet legal obligations before they even have to start removing barriers that prevent Americans with disabilities from leading independent lives.

This offensive legislation would segregate the disability community, making it the only protected class under civil rights law that must rely on “education” — rather than strong enforcement — to guarantee access to public spaces.”

She also quotes the Consortium for Citizens with Disabilities Rights Task Force and other civil rights organizations opposed to the bill.

“We know of no other law that outlaws discrimination but permits entities to discriminate with impunity until victims experience that discrimination and educate the entities perpetrating it about their obligations not to discriminate.”

Tammy Duckworth is a disabled veteran with firsthand knowledge of the challenges and obstacles faced by people with disabilities. Her opposition to a bill that makes people with disabilities responsible for overcoming disability discrimination is understandable.

Equally understandable, dear lawmakers, is your lack of firsthand knowledge about these barriers. Until breaking my foot on October 1, 2017 and becoming best friends with a manual wheelchair, I lacked firsthand knowledge, too. But 3 months of wheelchair experience became my best teacher and led to my New Year’s resolution to defeat the ADA Education and Reform Act.

To make this resolution a reality, I’m asking every member of Congress and the Senate to spend 3 months in a manual wheelchair before moving this misguided bill forward.

No cheating is allowed during those 3 months. No walking of any kind, though hopping on 1 foot from the wheelchair to the toilet or the car is permissible. But, like people with disabilities, you are restricted to the handicapped modifications available where you live, work, and play. You are also expected to remain as independent as possible–no fair being a drain on society–seeking the assistance of others only when you really need it and when they are willing to grant it.

At the end of the 3 months, read through the ADA Education and Reform Act again. If you can vote for it in good conscience, go right ahead. But I don’t think you will. Because once you’ve spent 3 months in a wheelchair, your perspective will change.

Because of your experience, you’ll identify remaining barriers to be eliminated instead of only those already removed. You’ll have experienced the extra work a disabled person does to remain independent. And you’ll know that if the ADA Education and Reform Act passes into law, it will be detrimental to you when your body grows old and fails–when you need a wheelchair or a walker or a scooter or a prosthetic device, not for 3 months, but for the rest of your life. You’ll realize that by voting for this ill-conceived bill, you are voting against yourself. Do you really want to do something like that?

Sincerely yours,
Jolene Philo
Daughter of a disabled father
Mother of a son with special needs
Member of the human race who will one day, God willing, have age-related special needs

 

Postscript: The ADA Education and Reform Act was passed on February 15, 2018. 

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When a Kid with EA/TEF Finds Courage…

When a Kid with EA/TEF Finds Courage…

When a Kid with EA/TEF Finds Courage…

Different Dream is pleased to welcome today’s guest blogger, Lori McGahan. Lori is mom to a son, Brandon, who lives with EA/TEF, and she’s the founder of EA/TEF Awareness Month. Lori’s first EA/TEF Awareness Month guest post at Different Dream appeared in January of 2011. Today, she shares an update about how life with Brandon is progressing.

When a Kid with EA/TEF Finds Courage

In October, our son Brandon said that he wanted to do the Spartan Kids Run at Fenway with his classmates. Of course, my husband and I had a lot of fear and trepidation as to whether to allow Brandon to participate given his complex medial history of EA/TEF and tracheomalcia. We were also a bit fearful that he may become overwhelmed due to sensory processing and gross motor deficits. As parents, naturally we did not want our child to fail, but we also knew we had to look beyond our own fears and allow him to spread his wings and find himself.

As the day of the Spartan Kids Race grew closer, our son grew more excited. For the next several weeks our house was a chorus of “You can do it,” “We are so proud of you for taking this challenge on,” and “You will be amazing in everything you do!” Brandon’s excitement fueled our excitement which found us living in the present versus worrying about the future. What an amazing feeling such a positive outlook and challenge can have on a family.

“Do not dwell in the past, do not dream of the future, concentrate the mind on the present moment.”
Buddha

Before we knew it, race day was upon us. We put Brandon on the team bus and again told him how proud we were of him. We reminded him that it is not about winning but trying your best. As the bus rolled out, my husband and I sat in our car, and all those fears and worries came back for the next several hours. Questions flooded through our minds.

How is he doing?
Did he have a meltdown?
Do you think he finished?

When the bus rolled back in, we anxiously rushed to greet Brandon and hear all about his day. He was tired and dirty, but the smile on his face and the glow in his eye said it all as he held up the Spartan medal around his neck.

How does a kid with EA/TEF find courage for the Spartan Kids Run at Fenway Park? Lori McGahan tells her son's story in today's EA/TEF Awareness Month post.

He was so excited to tell us how he came in seventh in his group and how some of the obstacles were tough, but he didn’t give up. Our hearts swelled with pride and inside we cried!

Our son, who had been through so many obstacles and challenges from birth, just completed the Spartan Kids Run! He had the courage to face his fears and his obstacles. That day, we saw our son grow as an individual. As his parents, we did too.

“The miracle isn’t that I finished. The miracle is that I had the courage to start.”

John Bingham, No Need for Speed: A Beginner’s Guide to the Joy of Running

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Lori McGahan lives in Massachusetts with her husband Brian and son Brandon. She’s a Division Administration Manager for a human services agency and is working on a degree in Business Administration. Brandon was born with a series of birth defects referred to as VACTERL Syndrome, including tracheo-esophageal fistula (EA/TEF). Brandon has also been diagnosed with sensory processing disorder, dyslexia and anxiety. For more information on EA/TEF you can visit the Bridges of Hope website. Lori and her husband, started the EA/TEF online awareness campaign, Color It Periwinkle, in 2018.

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EA/TEF Awareness Month, January 2018

EA/TEF Awareness Month, January 2018

EA/TEF Awareness Month, January 2018

For parents of kids with esophageal atresia (also known as tracheo-esophageal fistula), nothing says Happy New Year like EA/TEF Awareness Month. Unless you’re a pediatric healthcare professional or the parent of a child with EA/TEF, you probably aren’t aware of the condition. I sure wasn’t until our newborn son was diagnosed with the condition hours after his birth in 1982.

That’s why Lori McGahan, an EA/TEF parent, started EA/TEF Awareness Month some years back. And that’s why Different Dream will feature several posts about EA/TEF throughout January of 2018, as it has done in the past.

The Different Dream gang invites you to stop by this website frequently throughout the month to read new stories, as well as articles from past years, about children who live with EA/TEF and the parents who care for them.

Tomorrow, Lori kicks off the guest post series with the story of her son’s gritty determination. But if curiosity is getting the best of you, check out these links to information about the condition.

You can also type either EA/TEF or EA/TEF Awareness Month, in the search bar to start reading Different Dream articles from past Januaries. But before you do, grab a tissue. There’s a good chance you’ll need to wipe your eyes a time or two!

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God Is With Us on the Way to Bethlehem

God Is With Us on the Way to Bethlehem

God Is With Us on the Way to Bethlehem

A few short days after Christmas, my daughter will serve as chauffeur to what we both hope will be my final doctor’s appointment since breaking my foot almost 3 months ago. While we are both excited to hear that I can resume driving and other duties she’s taken on during my convalescence, we’re also apprehensive about the 30 mile drive to the hospital and clinic.

Because my daughter is, as the Bible says, great with child.

I have no desire to deliver a grandchild under any circumstances. But I really, really don’t want to welcome a new life into the world while tromping around in an orthopedic boot that looks like a costume piece from Young Frankenstein. In December. In Iowa. Where the weather can be frightful this time of year.

Sure, the baby isn’t due for another month, we tell each other. Sure, we’ll have our cell phones. Sure, we can dial 911 if need be. Sure, it’ll all work out, we reassure one another.

After all, I joke weakly, Mary and Joseph made it to Bethlehem, didn’t they?

Those words, once spoken, bring more peace than my attempts to control the situation by arranging for alternate transportation, constantly plugging in my phone so it’s 100% charged at all time, packing a baby delivery kit, and throwing the daughter’s suitcase in the car.

Joseph and Mary made it to Bethlehem on a donkey without a cell phone.

To read the rest of this post, visit the Not Alone Website at specialneedsparenting.net.

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Unqualified for Special Needs Motherhood

Unqualified for Special Needs Motherhood

Unqualified for Special Needs Motherhood

Different Dream is happy to welcome Amy Felix into its guest blogger fold. Like many of us, she feels unqualified for special needs motherhood. And yet as mom to 4 kids, 3 of whom have special needs, she’s come to grips with her assignment. Today, she outlines the path that led to acceptance and confidence in her unexpected role.

I’ve always felt wholly unqualified for special needs motherhood. Then came diagnosis day and “unqualified” felt like an understatement.

Autism.

It rocked my world and left me scrambling to learn more, understand more, and BE more. Not long after, came another diagnosis for another of my children…and then another. Of my four children, two have autism and one has ADHD. Most days, I find it truly a challenge to get out of bed in the morning. Though I thought this feeling was just a passing phase, it’s become a part of me; this bone-tired, soul-weary ache. I often find myself feeling completely and utterly overwhelmed; as if, no matter what I do or how hard I try, I’m just never enough.

I’m not one to question God very often. After all, He’s God and I’m not. I know that He’s cradling my world in His very capable hands, yet, He chose me to parent these children.

Me.

There’s a part of my mind that can’t help but question why. How could he look at me, at the overall mess that I am, and decide that I’m capable of raising these incredibly unique and mysterious little people?

One of the tragically beautiful parts of special needs parenting is the way it forces you to face who you truly are. Many times, your weaknesses take center stage and you are brought to your knees by the reality of your own flawed humanness. You discover that you can do much more than you ever thought you could, but you also learn that you can’t do many of the things you thought would come naturally. Self-doubt creeps in so easily, especially in the moments when you feel helpless. For me, those moments come much more often than I ever imagined they would.

Parenting children with special needs, if I’m honest, is not the path I would have chosen for myself. Heading into this journey, I knew from experience how wide and deep and long the battle road for everyone involved. I knew it could take me down if I let it, and I didn’t see how it was possible that I could be all that my children would need me to be. Now that the road I’m on is more familiar, I know that I was right.

On my own, I am unqualified.

Yet, that doesn’t defeat me, because this journey has proven that there is no limit to what God can do through me. There is no amount of dysfunction or uncertainty that scares Him off. There is nothing He can’t use for His glory. Who I am, special needs parent or otherwise, is not defined by the mess I see when I look in the mirror…it’s defined by The One who holds my heart. The One who created my children designed me to be their mother in partnership with Him- the most capable, qualified Parent of them all. This calling may mean that I’ll always be bone-tired or overwhelmed, but I’ll never be alone, never without hope, even when I feel unqualified for special needs motherhood…

…and neither will you.

 

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My name is Amy Felix. I’ve been married for 10 years to a guy who’s totally out of my league. I’m a homeschooling mom to 4 kids, ranging in age from 9 to 2 years. That’s really enough work on it’s own but, because I love it, I’m a photographer as well. And, in my spare time, I write. My faith is the driving force behind my special needs blog: Appointed To Hope. I’m a firm believer in being real, transparent, and using the gifts of this journey as a way to relate to others in their joy as well as their sorrow. To read more about my adventures in special needs parenting, visit my website at www.appointedtohope.com.

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The Gift of Perfect Imperfection

The Gift of Perfect Imperfection

The Gift of Perfect Imperfection

As Christmas draws near, guest blogger Steph Ballard shares a gift treasured dearly by every parent of a child with special needs–the gift of perfect imperfection.

The Gift of Perfect Imperfection

I thought I knew what perfect was.
I’d flip through magazines
Dazzled by each page I saw–
Models and beauty queens.

Surely, they must have it all
Not one trait to despise
And then came you to show me
The world through new eyes.

As Christmas Day draws closer
With every red and green hue
I see things even more clearly–
My best gift has always been you.

The gift was in my first glimpse
Into your isolette
Learning to love–with words alone–
I could not hold you yet.

The gift was in your tiny heart
We prayed could be repaired,
Asking for so many prayers
And knowing people cared.

The gift was when your surgeon came
And told us you would live.
Knowing if we got this chance
There’s nothing we wouldn’t give.

The gift was in that feeding tube
And tape marks on your cheek,
And even in your careful steps
With muscles labeled “weak.”

The gift was when you tried to talk.
I prayed you’d grow and thrive.
The gift is in that long thin scar
Because you are alive.

The gift is watching your chest rise and fall–
You’re sleeping peacefully–
It’s also in the lives that you’ve touched
And how much you’ve changed me.

The gift is in the friends I’ve made–
I never would have guessed–
And every single day we have
Reminding me I’m blessed.

The gift is that I need no words
To help me understand
That my child has a purpose.
His life’s divinely planned.

The world sees the best gifts
In many ways unspoken,
But in my heart I know God sees
The gift in what’s broken.

Not the perfect body
Or words, or job, or face.
The gift is when we lean on Him
And learn to see His grace.

We still do not know
What our future brings
But I now see the the best gifts
In the everyday things.

The best and most beautiful things in the world
cannot be seen or even touched –
they must be felt with the heart.
~Helen Keller

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Stephanie Ballard is the mother of two sons, her youngest son, Braeden, was born with Kabuki Syndrome and congenital heart defects. Her oldest son, Colin is in the military. She enjoys writing poetry and life lessons about her journey in life.

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