Introducing Jesus to Kids with Special Needs, Part 2

Introducing Jesus to Kids with Special Needs, Part 2

Introducing Jesus to Kids with Special Needs, Part 2

Jesus loved kids so much, he commanded the disciples to bring the little children to him. That commandment referred to all children, including those with special needs. One of the duties of believing parents is to introduce our children to him. Guest blogger Amy Stout is here with Part 2 of a two-day series packed with resources to equip parents to follow that command.

Introducing Jesus to Kids with Special Needs, Part 2

As parents, we have an awesome and wonderful opportunity to introduce our children to Jesus. However, when you are a parent of a child who experiences special needs or who learns differently, this task can seem overwhelmingly difficult. Here are a few resources that have really been helpful in our home:

Bible Study/Devotions

  • Jesus resources for kids with special needsWord of Life Gopher Buddies Quiet Time: This is a quick daily devotional for you to do with your child. Each lesson is short and sweet and gives them a hands on activity that requires zero prep. Kylie loves it. Also, the lessons are easily adaptable based on your child’s abilities.

 

 

 

 

  • Keys for Kids:Ā This is also a favorite of ours. These are not as colorful, but the stories are captivating and so applicable to every day life. Plus, you can get theĀ first book freeĀ or read online for free. The website also shows theĀ ABC’s of salvation.

 

 

Biblical Training/Discipline/Parental Guidance

  • For Instruction in Righteousness:Ā My absolute favorite resource. Behaviors are listed topically. (Example: anger, pride, friendship, and so on.) Each section is divided into: what the Bible says about this, what are the consequences if you don’t do as the Bible says, what are the blessings if you do what the Bible says, examples of Bible characters who did and did not obey and what happened to them, practical ideas of object lessons and other helps for parents. Ā Much scripture is listed and reinforces that our children are to obey God’s word through parental instruction.

This really helps our family reinforce that Kylie is not just disobeying/obeying us as her parents, but more importantly she is disobeying/obeying God. Ā It also gives us ideas of the good things she is doing so we can reward and encourage her appropriately as we see these positive behaviors. I love that discipline is not just negative… but what it is supposed to be–teaching and training.

  • The Child Training Bible:Ā This website gives you a full tutorial, shopping list and tips on how to use the Child Training Bible. While it is time consuming to put together, it is a great resource. You simply follow the tabs for scriptural helps to teach your child about that issue or concern in the Bible. They also offer aĀ Virtue Training Bible.

 

  • Introducing your child to Jesus ResourcesThe Five Love Languages of Children: This is an amazing book for parents. I can’t say enough about it. Knowing how to discern Love Languages is so important to every aspect of your life—parenting, work relationships, church relationships, and so much more. It helps with every communication style. One of my favorite parenting books.

 

 

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Faith-Based Toys

The Fisher Price Noah’s Ark set is one example. But there are so many to choose from… See thisĀ linkĀ for a big list.

What Jesus Resources Do You Use?

Now that Amy’s shared her list of resources, it’s your turn. What resources do you use with your kids? Leave a comment below for the rest of us. If you missed yesterday’s post be sure to check it out too.

Introducing Jesus to Kids with Special Needs, Part 1

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Introducing Jesus to Kids with Special Needs, Part 1

Introducing Jesus to Kids with Special Needs, Part 1

Introducing Jesus to Kids with Special Needs, Part 1

Jesus commanded the disciples to bring the little children to him. As his present-day disciples, one of our duties is to introduce our children with special needs to him. Guest blogger Amy Stout is here with Part 1 of a two-day series packed with resources and ideas to obey Jesus’ command and bless our children.

Introducing Jesus to Kids with Special Needs, Part 1

My daughter recently informed my husband and me that God was “cross” with Wreck-It-Ralph. (Who says the word “cross” anymore?) She told us that Ralph was wrecking God’s creation and God was going to send an angel to help him STOP!

My husband and I got a good laugh out of her story. Ā We hooted even more a few days later when we were in a store with Kylie, and a woman’s voice came over the loud speaker. Our daughter jerked her head up, sucked in her breath and exclaimed “That’s God’s sister!”

While Kylie’s theology is obviously flawed, and we have lots of work to do to make sure she understands truth, we were thrilled that she is beginning to connect the spiritual dots, however squiggly the lines are right now.

As parents, we have an awesome and wonderful opportunity to introduce our children to Jesus. However, when you are a parent of a child who experiences special needs or who learns differently, this task can seem overwhelmingly difficult. A good place to start would be to figure out what your child’s learning style is. Is your child an auditory learner? A visual learner? A hands-on learner? Does she enjoy self-teaching or learn better in a group or one-on-one? Does music help your child learn? Once you know that piece, it is much easier to choose resources to help your child become acquainted with spiritual truths.

Here are a few resources that have really been helpful in our home:

Bible Memory Resources

  • Scripture Lullabies CD: I discovered these recently and am so thrilled by them. They are an incredible way to learn scripture simply by listening to them as your child goes to sleep. The music is so beautiful and the lyrics come directly from God’s Word. On a side note: many parents have reported that after listening to these CDs, their kids sleep better, night terrors cease to exist and they rest beautifully… because folks, scripture does that. The Word of God is alive and powerful! They are available in Volume 1 and Volume 2.

 

  • Hide 'em in your HeartHide ’em In Your Heart DVD/CD: This is an amazing DVD/CD set. The fashions are a little dated, but the kids playing and colorful scenes are engaging for kids and adults alike. The tempo is upbeat and fun. We really enjoy these for daytime viewing. The link takes you to a boxed set of both volumes.

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Bible Stories to Read

  • Read and Share Bible: This is my daughter’s absolute favorite book. (We also love theĀ DVDs.) Ā She takes it with her everywhere. She has read these stories to Buddhists, Hindus, Free Thinkers, and Muslims. (Who said a 7-year-old can’t be a missionary?) The illustrations are colorful and exciting. Ā My only teeny, tiny “negative” feedback is that my daughter often gets confused by the babies in the book. The babies in different stories are illustrated the same so, because my daughter is a literal thinker, it took us a long time to convince her that the babies had not jumped into other stories of the book but that they each had their own name and own parents. For example, Kylie kept telling us that the baby Samuel was Ruth and Boaz’s son… nope… the babies just look the same in the book. Samuel’s mommy is Hannah, and Ruth and Boaz’s son is Obed. However, this is a miniscule complaint vs how much we love this book and DVD set!

 

  • The Jesus Story Book Bible: This is my absolute favorite book to read to my daughter. Ā The illustrations are not that engaging for children, in my opinion, so I choose to read this to Kylie at bedtime after she is already tucked into bed. The writing is amazing and I love that every story circles back to Jesus and the big picture. You aren’t left wondering how it all fits together in the end.

 

More Jesus Resources on Tap Tomorrow

Amy will be back tomorrow with more resources in part 2 of this series. Until then, have fun checking these out and leaving comments about your child’s favorite faith resources.

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4 Bible Time Tips for Families of Kids with Special Needs

4 Bible Time Tips for Families of Kids with Special Needs

4 Bible Time Tips for Families of Kids with Special Needs

Bible time to encourage the spiritual development of the children is one of the duties of believing parents. It requires time, patience, and diligence. For parents of kids with special needs, it also requires extra perseverance and plenty of creativity. A blog post at Do Not Depart by Caroline Flory offers tips for parents who want to include their children in daily Bible time.

The Importance of Bible Time for Kids with Special Needs

Flory first explains why Bible time is important for kids with special needs. Here’s what she says:

  • Anything positive where we include children with special needs helps boost confidence in their own social and communication skills and worth.
  • The more they (or any of us, really) hear God’s Word, the deeper those truths permeate.
  • Inclusion in family activities with people of varied ages exposes kids to new concepts and social strategies.

Bible Time Tips for Including Kids with Special Needs

She then offers these four tips:

  1. Give your children opportunities to participate. Flory’s son uses sign language to stay engaged in the conversation.
  2. Help them memorize Scripture. Even if it takes longer for your child with special needs, memorization can lead to eternal benefit.
  3. Surround your kids with Scripture expressed in various mediums. Music is especially effective. It helps truths stick in the heart, help kids express feelings, and increases positive attitudes.
  4. Allow some choice. Allowing kids some choice helps them maintain focus.

Flory explains each point in greater detail in 4 Tips for Including Kids with Special Needs in Family Bible Time. The post is packed with links and resources related to Bible time and kids with special needs.

How Do You Involve Kids with Special Needs in Bible Time?

How about you? What do you do to keep all your kids engaged in family Bible time? Your ideas are welcome here, so leave a comment.

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Confessions of Special Needs Parents

Confessions of Special Needs Parents

Confessions of Special Needs Parents

Special needs parenting is a combination of joys and hard things. Guest blogger Ellen Stumbo is here today with her confession and the confessions of other special needs parents.

Confessions of a Special Needs Parent:
The Hard Things

Parenting a child with special needs can be a challenge, and often those challenges feel like a strong tidal wave coming at us, threatening to make us lose our balance, to fall, to give up. But we don’t. We never do.

The love for our children compels us to stand strong against the tide crashing against us—the stares, the school system, the medical billing, the ignorance from other people, or the lack of support. And although we stand strong, we get tired, sometimes we are barely keeping our feet planted and we fear the tide will finally defeat us and wash us away. So we reach out and hold each other’s hands because we know together we are stronger, and because we need someone to stand with us. We cannot do this alone. We face challenges. There are hard things about parenting children with special needs.

Social Isolation

We don’t want to be isolated, yet sometimes because of our children’s needs we find ourselves alone. We want friends. We need friends.

Special Needs Parents Feel Like We Are Not Doing Enough

Deep down we often wonder, could I do more? Could I try harder?Ā  Am I really doing all I can do? Sometimes, we have an overwhelming feeling of failing at everything we do because we don’t have enough time or energy to do it all. We feel like we are failing with our kids, we feel like we are failing with the typical siblings, failing at our marriage, failing at keeping a neat home, failing at our jobs.

Siblings

At times, we feel like we are cheating our typical children from having normal childhood experiences. We feel torn, and we fear that our typical children will feel less important or forgotten.

Comparing our Child to Typical Peers

We try not to compare, but sometimes it’s hard not to notice how different our children are compared to their typical peers.

Lack of Communication with our Children

It is hard when you cannot understand your own child because of a speech delay, and even harder when the lack of communication affects other social interactions and the forming of friendships.

Others

It is tiresome when other people throw judgment at us.Ā  It is insulting when people hint they could do better and that our children’s behaviors are a result of poor parenting. The constant battle with schools, doctors, insurance companies, etc., is exhausting. Some people don’t even give our kids a chance.

The Future

We worry about the unknown, what the future holds. What will happen to our kids when we are not around? And how do we let go?

Dealing with the Diagnosis

When we first received our child’s diagnosis, we had to grieve the loss of the child we thought we would have. Once we deal with the diagnosis, we still have to deal with the everyday realities of our children’s needs. We want you to recognize the hard things about parenting a child with special needs, and we hope that someday you will understand what it is like to walk in our shoes. Ultimately, we want you to stand with us, because when you do, you will see that we are courageous, funny, compassionate, resilient, brave, flexible, forgiving, generous, and so full of love. And we want to share that with you too.

What’s the Hardest Thing You Deal With?

Are you a parent of a child with special needs? What is the hardest thing you deal with as you parent your child? Leave a comment below or join the conversation on Facebook where Ellen asked, ā€œThe hardest thing about parenting a child with special needs is_____________ā€

Those responses were an inspiration for this post.

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Fear Leaves Parent Yearning for God’s Cradling Arms

Fear Leaves Parent Yearning for God’s Cradling Arms

Fear Leaves Parent Yearning for God’s Cradling Arms

Parenting children with special needs isn’t an easy business as guest blogger Rebekah Benimoff knows. In today’s post, she describes one of her deepest needs as the parent of a child with special needs.

Cradled

Fear. It does not always come in the darkness of night. Sometimes it arrives in the early morning, when I wake to the weak voice of my son, who has type-one diabetes, whispering in my ear, “Mom, I feel sick.”Ā  He bolts to my bathroom, and I run, too, to try to comfort, hoping my presence is enough, while I wrestle with helplessness—and fear.

Once he is back in bed, miserable, aching, I can’t get still. The jolt from sleeping to wild wakefulness leaves my heart racing. Flip flops pound across tile, hands sweep through the medicine cabinet for something, anything to help him. Within the hour, blood glucose has been checked, fresh insulin given, a new set for the insulin pump has been attached to his body.Ā  The on-call doctor has advised, and nausea medicine has been administrated. Everything medically necessary has been done. But another hour wait until the next blood glucose check leaves me gaping. If I sit with him, I will only keep him awake. So I train a watchful eye on the hallway, and wait for the next round.

He is up again soon, retching. I run to him, again. I wish I could do more. I wish I could take this burden from him. So I stand close and rub his back, and wrestle. This is why I keep a change of clothes in the car for my son and myself. I try to be prepared. We have a bag packed with medical supplies that goes with us everywhere. I keep what is not practical for “the diabetes bag” (like pajamas and clean underwear in case of a sudden trip to the hospital) in the minivan. But try as I might, I cannot anticipate everything. It’s wise to be prepared, but sometimes the back-up plan is a good start—yet not near enough.

Tweaking, analyzing, and re-planning are good, even necessary—but can not guarantee there won’t be rough patches. Sometimes, I do the best in can in the moment, and process later. It’s in moments like these when I am reminded not to underestimate grace. For others, yes. But for myself too. Even now, when I do my best but my son still suffers, grace is for me, too.

Grace is that loving Voice assuring, “You did the best you could, now give the rest to me.”

So I close the cabinets and place my hands on the countertop to steady myself. I breathe and pray. In… out… In and out again.

Prayer breathes in—Jesus.
I speak the name and breathe out, saying aloud: Lord, my assurance.
In: God
Out: Healer
In: Spirit
Out: Comforter
In: Rest
Out: Release

Hands out, I find the altar, and place my son—and my own heart—in the place where we are safe. For I know this truth: sometimes God holds us in his hands, but always, he holds us in his heart. So here, now, in this moment, I nestle in and find myself—and my precious boy—cradled in the arms of the One who loves us best.

What Do You Need?

What do you need when fear enters your heart? How do you find it? Leave a comment if you like.

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Special Needs Parenting and the Importance of Forgiveness

Special Needs Parenting and the Importance of Forgiveness

Special Needs Parenting and the Importance of Forgiveness

Special needs parenting is hard work, a fact guest blogger Amy Stout knows from experience. She also knows the part forgiveness plays in keeping a marriage strong. In today’s post she transparently shares how she learned how to ask for forgiveness.

The Sock Under My Nose

I am the proud and resilient mommy of a little girl who experiences special needs. She is my one and only child, so my introduction to mommyhood was and has been quite different than I had planned.

A Special Needs Mom’s To-Do List

My days are full of making doctor’s appointments, researching treatments, following up on test results, updating family and friends via our Caring Bridge page, coordinating procedures, filling out insurance paperwork, appealing insurance denials, applying for resources, setting up and attending therapy appointments and all the other day to day tasks.

They are also full of convincing my daughter to eat (something she hates to do), prying her fingers off the door frame so we can bathe her (also something she hates), working on her speech, occupational therapy, social and anxiety goals. We have also been teaching her sign language, appropriate manners, how to request things she wants, and how to answer, ā€œYes, I’d like thatā€ or ā€œNo, thank you.ā€

Precious minutes are consumed explaining to cashiers in stores why our daughter does not respond when they greet her and why she does not make eye contact when spoken to. We also work to smooth over the hurt feelings of relatives and close friends who feel slighted when our daughter does not return their affection, behave excitedly over their gifts, or desire their hugs.

And yet, the general business of maintaining a life and home are still on the list to be addressed: laundry, dishes, preparing meals, vacuuming, paying bills, and filling the car with gas, grocery shopping, lawn maintenance, trash removal, and so many other necessary responsibilities. The priority list must also include quality time to build, maintain, and nurture my marriage, friendships, a spiritual life, personal health needs, investing in the community, and any private goals I might desire to achieve. My to-do list is endless.

Special Needs Parents’ Marriage Pact

At 6 months of age, my baby girl stopped sleeping. She would be up every two hours the entire night, and it didn’t take long for my husband and me to become completely exhausted. We functioned the best we could, but throw into the mix all of the administrative duties of raising a child who experiences special needs and, let’s face it… we were beyond tired.

My husband and I learned quickly that we needed to make some ground rules and agree to be extra-forgiving toward one another as when we were trying to function in the early morning hours on next to no sleep, we found we weren’t at our best emotionally nor were we high achievers on the patience and kindness meter. We made a pact that any impatience or grouchiness toward one another that occurred between midnight and 7am the next morning was never to be held against the offending party. Forgiveness and understanding poured forth in our marriage like never before.

Special Needs Parenting Frustration

On one particular night, when my daughter woke in the wee hours of the new day, I went to her room and began to attempt to rock her back to sleep. When I did, I noticed that she was missing one of her socks. My husband had stopped in to check on us and I sweetly asked him to please look for the sock. Fumbling in the darkness, my servant-hearted husband looked and returned a few minutes later telling me that he could not find her sock.*

During the daylight hours, this was a joke between the two of us and would elicit light-hearted teasing such as ā€œIf it were a snake, it would have bitten youā€ or ā€œsometimes you might actually have to MOVE something to find it.ā€ However, on this particular night, his inability to find her sock quite annoyed me and I was in no mood for jokes. I sarcastically informed him that socks don’t just get up and walk away.

So this time, using a flashlight, he picked up her mattress, looked under her blankets and behind her bed.

With every exchange, our voices were getting less sweet and more rigid and our (trying to be quiet yet insistent) verbal hissing became more determined.

Feeling quite irritated at his lack of being able to locate the sock, I requested, through gritted teeth, that he look again.

This time, he looked under her bed, by the changing table (she could have thrown it), and on the floor.

There was still no sock.

My daughter, who preferred to be rocked, facing out, was enjoying our nighttime communication dance immensely. (At least someone was having a good time)

When I had finally had it, I told my husband to come and rock our daughter so that I—finder of lost socks extraordinaire—could locate the sock.

Special Needs Parenting Forgiveness

My husband, still using the flashlight in a futile attempt to be discreet, approached the rocking chair. When he was about two feet away, he abruptly stopped. A purely mischievous grin traveled across his face and an incredibly EVIL laugh bubbled forth from within him.

By now, I was completely perturbed with my husband and I asked him what was so funny. He was laughing so hard he couldn’t even respond, and, instead, pointed to my daughter’s left side. I looked down and noticed my precious daughter was waving to her daddy. To my dismay, there, on her left arm, was the missing sock! Somehow, in the night, she had taken off her sock and put it on her arm like a sock puppet! The sock had been under my nose the entire time!

Needless to say, apologies were exchanged, a tiny dose of crow was consumed, and we have had many laughs over this very humbling story. My innocent daughter unknowingly played a very funny and timely joke on her very tired and overwhelmed mama.

Score one for her!!

*Note: This is the same husband who will stare directly at an object and insist he cannot see it. I am sure no one else experiences this in their home.

Score One for You

What lessons in forgiveness have you learned? How have those lessons improved your marriage? Leave your story in the comment box and make us smile.

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