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Mom turns 84 today. This year, we didn’t think she had the stamina to make the trip to the Labor Day Reunion being held in northwest Iowa. So in honor of her birthday, the post written for the occasion last year has been reposted below. If you read to the very bottom, you’ll find out there is something new to give a woman who’s 84!<\/p>\n

What Do You Give a Woman Who’s 83?<\/strong><\/p>\n

<\/strong>Mom\u2019s birthday was Saturday, and as was mentioned in a previous post<\/a>, we (meaning 20 people in her extended family, including her baby sister, Donna, pictured above) celebrated in style with the traditional family birthday cake. What wasn\u2019t mentioned in the post was my personal quandary that has grown more perplexing as Mom grows older.<\/p>\n

What do you give a woman who\u2019s 83?<\/p>\n

Mom doesn\u2019t like to be given stuff because once it\u2019s hers, she frets about it.
\n\u201cWhat should I do with it?\u201d she asks.
\n\u201cWhere should I put it?\u201d she asks.
\n\u201cDo you want it?\u201d she asks.
\nKinda defeats the purpose of giving a gift, when she wants the giver to take it back.<\/p>\n

This year, I rationalized away the quandary this way.
\n\u201cBaking the German chocolate cake is my present to her,\u201d I thought.
\n\u201cSharing my bed with her for the reunion weekend is my present to her,\u201d I thought.
\n\u201cHiram sleeping on the floor for the reunion weekend so she could sleep in our bed is our present to her,\u201d I thought.
\n\u201cHosting 20 people at my house for the weekend is my present to her,\u201d I thought.<\/p>\n

But do you know what?<\/p>\n

Throughout the weekend,
\nthe more I watched her listen to the young adults describe their forays into grownupdom,
\nthe more I saw her enjoy watching everyone play yard games,
\nthe more engaged she became during several rousing games of Catch Phrase,
\nthe more I realized my thoughts were not rationalization.
\nInstead, those thoughts were the answer to the quandary.<\/p>\n<\/div>\n

What do you give a woman who\u2019s 83?
\nThe gift of your time.<\/em><\/div>\n
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This year, the sibs and I came up with something to give Mom. We had the signed poster she received from Kairong Liu<\/a>, the Chinese artist she tutored when he was college student, matted and framed. We’re taking her out to supper tomorrow evening and giving it then. So shhhh, don’t say a word!<\/em><\/div>\n
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