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\u00a0Obedience can be a difficult behavior to instill in children. But guest blogger Amy Stout’s series on the topic can help. In Part 1<\/a><\/span>, she discussed first steps parents need to take so their kids will be inclined to obey. In Part 2<\/a><\/span>, she provided an illustration to use with kids. In the final post in her series on the topic, she shares easy ways for kids to practice obeying their parents.<\/em><\/p>\n

Obedience: The Formula for Fall Blessings, Pt. 3<\/strong><\/p>\n

Obedience: How to Practice It<\/strong><\/p>\n

Obedience is comprised of listening\/processing and following directions. When caregivers say to my child, “Kylie, you need to listen,” it drives me C-R-A-Z-Y. Kylie has auditory processing issues. She HAS listened. The time lapse in response is due to her brain trying to process the information so she can act.<\/p>\n

Some children (a LOT of children) require object cues, picture cues, sign language cues, lists, or other things to help them understand what it is that you are asking of them. Otherwise, your directive sounds like that of Charlie Brown’s teacher “wah, wah, wah, wah, wah, wah.” No child has a chance at following that direction.<\/p>\n

If it is time for Kylie to pick up toys, we don’t generalize and say, “Kylie you need to pick up toys.” Instead, we use a white board and we write on it:<\/p>\n

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  1. Pick up markers<\/li>\n
  2. Pick up Barbies<\/li>\n
  3. Pick up coloring books<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

    Or, we will use a First\/Then method and say, “Kylie, first<\/em> pick up Barbies. Then<\/em> eat popsicle.” Both strategies allow her some flexibility in making the decision for herself, but both also accomplish the task needing to be completed.<\/p>\n

    It is also important to give your child the tools and scenarios to be successful. Do not set them up for failure by keeping them up too late at night and demanding obedience when they are too tired to respond appropriately. Don’t attempt a clean-up routine when lunch has been delayed by an hour. All they can think of is how hungry they are. They are in no mindset to be obedient. Make sure your child’s needs are met first and then work on practicing obedience together.<\/p>\n

    Obedience: Easy Ways to Practice It this Fall<\/strong><\/p>\n