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Obedience is an important skill to teach every child. Guest blogger Amy Stout is here with strategies parents can use to train their children to be obedient. Today, she talks about first steps parents need to take so kids will want to obey.<\/em><\/p>\n

Obedience: The Formula for Fall Blessings, Pt. 1<\/strong><\/p>\n

Let’s face it.\u00a0 Not many people like the word “obey.\u201d\u00a0\u00a0 Anytime I use that word around Kylie’s therapists – Kylie, you need to obey Miss Therapist<\/em> – they quickly change the wording to, “Yes, Kylie, please follow directions.”<\/p>\n

People don’t like the word obey because it implies submission, and so many of us have a problem with authority. We want to be THE BOSS. I get it, I truly do. (I, also, have a slight issue with authority\u2014we creative types always do.) Even though I don’t particularly LIKE the word “obey,” I still use it.\u00a0 I use it because Jesus used it, and Jesus never did anything without a reason.<\/p>\n

Obedience: Placing It Before Kids<\/strong><\/p>\n

My daughter at age 6 (and on the autism spectrum)\u00a0knows the meaning and definition of the word “obey.\u201d We have placed it before her since she was tiny. Did you notice what I just wrote? I used the phrasing “placed it before her” rather than “drilled it into her” for a reason.<\/p>\n

You see, as a person who would rather be my own boss, I realize the importance of strategy and diplomacy. There is a way to get our children to obey without always placing a figurative yoke around their neck and dragging them to the task at hand. The thing is, kids are people pleasers. They WANT to make you happy, but they want to do it in their own time and in their own creative way. Sometimes, this poses a problem when REAL life enters the picture. Kids don’t understand that things in the adult world happen on a schedule. That some schedules are flexible and can change, but that other schedules absolutely cannot be changed.<\/p>\n

Obedience Needs to Be a Habit<\/strong><\/p>\n

Charlotte Mason<\/a><\/span>, a great educator from the past, once referred to the fact that obedience needs to be a HABIT, and that out of everything you can teach a child, obedience is the “single greatest pattern to be formed.” (Taken from For the Children’s Sake<\/em><\/a><\/span> by Susan Schaeffer Macaulay.)<\/p>\n

If for no other reason, our children need to know how to obey for safety reasons. Let’s say they are running toward a rolling ball that has left the playground and ventured into the parking lot. If we shout “stop!” and they don’t obey, their very life could depend on it.<\/p>\n

Obedience Requires Respect<\/strong><\/p>\n

Many children\u2014and especially children who experience special needs\u2014have very valid reasons for not obeying. These reasons vary from they simply don’t respect the elder giving the directive to they didn’t hear the directive. If a child does not respect you enough to obey you, you might want to take a look at your personal character:<\/p>\n