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Special needs mom, how are you doing this Mother\u2019s Day?<\/p>\n
Has anyone asked you that question before? Has anyone acknowledged that your feelings may not match what cards and commercials make them out to be? Have you had the courage to acknowledge, even to yourself, the swirl of emotions that surround you as the second Sunday in May approaches?<\/p>\n
Joy.
Loss.
Love.
Grief.
Wonder.
Fear.
Gratitude.
Guilt.<\/p>\n
I felt all those emotions as Mother\u2019s Day and our son\u2019s first birthday arrived within weeks of one another in 1983. I was a wreck that May\u2014exhausted, worried, depleted, and unable to think straight. Though our son is now an independent adult, those early emotions tend to resurface each May. As our son got older, I became wiser about how to acknowledge my feelings and celebrate being a mom without letting difficult emotions rule the day. I hope these 5 lessons help you do the same.<\/p>\n
Lesson #1: Enjoy your Child<\/strong><\/p>\n Your child is a wonder, perhaps not the wonder you expected, but wonderful all the same. Take a moment to enjoy who your child is\u2014or who she was if she\u2019s no longer physically present. What about her makes you laugh? How does she surprise you? Why is your world better because of her? What has she taught you about love? Let your answers increase your joy in the wonderful aspects of her life and lighten your heart.<\/p>\n Lesson #2: Make Room for Grief<\/strong><\/p>\n The joy your child brings is real and so is your grief. This Mother\u2019s Day weekend make room to acknowledge this emotion for what it is\u2014the loss of many dreams. Dreams of what parenting would be like. Dreams of how your child\u2019s development would progress. Dreams of celebrating milestones. Write your thoughts down. Tell God how much your heart hurts. Admit how hard your grief is to bear. God knows a thing or two about loss and heartache. Let him hold you as you grieve.<\/p>\n Click to read the rest of Special Needs Mom, How Are You Doing this Mother\u2019s Day? on the Hope Anew website.<\/strong><\/a><\/span><\/p>\n Do you like what you see at DifferentDream.com? 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