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In my book, this past month did not qualify as a Hallmark perfect Christmas. Too many friends experienced too many tragedies too close to the holidays. One friend lost her husband to a brain aneurysm. He was only two years younger than my husband. Two of her sons were preparing for college finals and the third was adjusting to a new school. Another friend faced the first anniversary of her husband\u2019s death on Christmas Eve. Someone else received a grim prognosis concerning a disease she\u2019s battled for years. A nine-year-old boy with the same esophageal anomaly as our son developed complications. His mom said her active, food-driven boy may soon require a feeding tube.<\/p>\n

Tears flow when I think of the the loneliness and heartbreak of two widows, three young men without their dad to guide them to adulthood, and a woman destined to leave her family far too soon. When I think of the nine-year-old boy who may need a feeding tube for the rest of his life, I can imagine what our son\u2019s life would have been like in similar circumstances. Then my tears give way to sobs and a profound, deep, unending grief.<\/p>\n

In those sorrowing moments, I don\u2019t like God very much.
\nI question His timing. Did you have to do it now, God?<\/em>
\nI question His decisions. Did it have to happen to these people I love so much?<\/em>
\nI question His compassion. Do you know how they feel?<\/em><\/p>\n

Then I think of Mary in this year\u2019s Christmas program. She\u2019s waiting in the wings, holding her baby close. I close my eyes and picture God looking down on His baby, looking ahead through His Son’s life on earth to His death on the cross. I see the Father\u2019s tears flowing into the bottle to join the tears of His Son, mixing with the tears of this past December’s new widows and orphans, of a little boy and his mother weeping while she pours bolus into a feeding tube. I see God\u2019s tears mingled with theirs, with mine, and with yours.<\/p>\n

I may never understand why God allowed such suffering into the lives of these people when He did. But I do know this. God understands how they feel. He has experienced their pain. And when his children cry out in the darkness, they never cry alone. God weeps, too, blessing them and us with His tears.<\/p>\n

This past Christmas wasn\u2019t Hallmark perfect. But, like the first Christmas, it was bathed in the Father’s tears. Not even a Hallmark perfect holiday can be better than that.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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