{"id":30663,"date":"2009-09-17T14:00:53","date_gmt":"2009-09-17T19:00:53","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/f06.70c.myftpupload.com\/?p=593"},"modified":"2009-09-17T14:00:53","modified_gmt":"2009-09-17T19:00:53","slug":"choosing-thomas","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/jolenephilo.com\/staging\/choosing-thomas\/","title":{"rendered":"Choosing Thomas"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"alignnone size-medium wp-image-597\" title=\"Trisomy 13 Mom Diary\" src=\"http:\/\/differentdream.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2009\/09\/Trisomy-13-Mom-Diary-300x200.jpg\" alt=\"Trisomy 13 Mom Diary\" width=\"300\" height=\"200\" \/><\/p>\n<p>For parents with a prenatal diagnosis indicating a fatal birth defect, there are dozens of questions and no easy answers. If your unborn baby has received such news, I am so sorry. I have no answers for you, but hope this post and video will help your family in the difficult days ahead.<\/p>\n<h3>Trisomy 13<\/h3>\n<p>The video, posted on the <em><a href=\"http:\/\/www.dallasnews.com\/s\/dws\/photography\/2009\/thomas\/\" target=\"_blank\">Dallas Morning News<\/a> <\/em>website,was created with the Laux family&#8217;s permission,\u00a0 after\u00a0 tests revealed their baby had the DNA abnormality<a href=\"http:\/\/www.livingwithtrisomy13.org\/\" target=\"_blank\"> Trisomy 13<\/a>.<\/p>\n<p><iframe loading=\"lazy\" title=\"Choosing Thomas -- Inside a family&#039;s decision to let their son live, if only for a brief time\" width=\"1080\" height=\"608\" src=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/embed\/ToNWquoXqJI?feature=oembed\"  allow=\"accelerometer; autoplay; clipboard-write; encrypted-media; gyroscope; picture-in-picture; web-share\" referrerpolicy=\"strict-origin-when-cross-origin\" allowfullscreen><\/iframe><\/p>\n<p>The <em>Dallas Morning News<\/em> site also provides a <a href=\"http:\/\/www.dallasnews.com\/sharedcontent\/dws\/news\/longterm\/stories\/082809thomas_resources.11b65c003.html\">resource page<\/a> about pediatric end of life care and tips for families. I&#8217;m not endorsing the organizations listed there, but if you are researching the topic, the page is a good place to begin.<\/p>\n<h3>Perinatal Hospice<\/h3>\n<p>Another organization, <a href=\"http:\/\/www.perinatalhospice.org\/\" target=\"_blank\">Perinatal Hospice<\/a>, helps families with unborn children diagnosed with terminal conditions. The people who created the website and the organization know what you are going through. Some of them have walked the path you are on now and can help you in ways I cannot. They offer compassionate support, a wealth of experience, and lists of books and other resources for grieving parents.<\/p>\n<p>Again, if you or someone you know recently received a prenatal diagnosis that could be terminal, I am so sorry. May these organizations and resources help your family make a thoughtful and loving decision. If you know of other support organizations, please contact me so I can list them on the DifferentDream.com resource page.<\/p>\n<p><em>Do you like what you see at DifferentDream.com? You can receive more great content by subscribing to the quarterly Different Dream newsletter and signing up for the daily RSS feed delivered to your email inbox. You can sign up for the first in the pop up box and the second at the bottom of this page.<\/em><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"border-radius: 2px; text-indent: 20px; width: auto; padding: 0px 4px 0px 0px; text-align: center; font: bold 11px\/20px 'Helvetica Neue',Helvetica,sans-serif; color: #ffffff; background: #bd081c  no-repeat scroll 3px 50% \/ 14px 14px; position: absolute; opacity: 1; z-index: 8675309; display: none; cursor: pointer; top: 36px; left: 20px;\">Save<\/span><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>For parents with a prenatal diagnosis indicating a fatal birth defect, there are dozens of questions and no easy answers. 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