#22  Recognizing Unhealthy Emotional Boundaries

#22 Recognizing Unhealthy Emotional Boundaries

#22 Recognizing Unhealth Emotional Boundaries

by Jolene Philo & Anne Fleck | Home Again

Straight from April, 1960, here’s a picture of Jolene (front and center) and her sister all dressed up for Easter. Mom’s holding my brother. Dad’s wearing sunglasses because light sensitivity was one of the effects of his recently diagnosed multiple sclerosis.

Judging from how bundled up we children are in the picture, the spring of 1960 was as cold as the spring of 2018.

For  information about maintaining healthy boundaries, check out Home Again Podcast Episode #10.

To read more about this topic, here’s a list of Anne’s favorite resources about relational boundaries:

The Four Kinds of Boundaries & How to Build Them at the Psych Central website.

Boundaries Updated and Expanded Edition: When to Say Yes, How to Say No to Take Control of Your Life by  Henry Cloud.

#21 A Day in Our Intergenerational Lives

#21 A Day in Our Intergenerational Lives

#21 A Day in Our Intergenerational Lives

by Jolene Philo & Anne Fleck | Home Again

We’ve been so busy with garden work and chasing kids that we forgot to take day-in-the-life pictures. But here’s a favorite of Papoo and his “helper” Tad doing dishes after supper.

As promised, here is Tad’s top ten naptime song list:

 

  1. I Love You Thaddeus sung to the tune of I Love You Conrad from Bye Bye Birdie.
  2. The ABCs
  3. Twinkle, Twinkle Little Star
  4. Baa, Baa Black Sheep (#2-4 have the same melody, which increases sleepiness and decreases excitement.)
  5. Frère Jacques
  6. Skiddle De Rinky Dinky Dink
  7. White Coral Bells
  8. Jesus Loves Me
  9. Amazing Grace
  10. Mary Had a Little Lamb

#20 Making a House Work from Birth to Death

#20 Making a House Work from Birth to Death

#20 Making a House Work from Birth to Death

by Jolene Philo & Anne Fleck | Home Again

Anne and Jolene collect house plans for intergenerational living on the Home Again Podcast Pinterest page. You can check it out here and share plans you’ve found, too.

Below are pictures of simple changes we’ve already made to make our house more accessible. From L to R: taller toilet seat installed to make life easier for when Mom comes to visit (but we all love it), the grab bar added after Jolene broke her foot, Graber automatic blinds that are easy to lower and raise and are stringless which makes them safer for children.

This summer’s project will be tearing out the front deck and the flagstones between it and the driveway. Then, we will have a new cement porch poured that includes a ramp and sidewalk extension that reaches to the driveway. Someday will add a second entrance closer to the garage that leads to the basement apartment. And, we’ll pave the driveway, too.

To close things out, here are pictures of the 1964 house wheelchair accessible where Jolene grew up. The pictures aren’t the best, but the foundation very close to the ground made all entrances level. It can be done folks! Do you see the milk box behind my parents and brother in the first picture? Notice that between the second and third pictures, the back entrance was redone to make a sliding door and a larger patio.

#19 Getting Ready for the Garden

#19 Getting Ready for the Garden

#19 Getting Ready for the Garden

by Jolene Philo & Anne Fleck | Home Again

In this episode Anne described her techniques for saving space while  starting tomatoes and peppers. As you can see, the tomatoes (in milk cartons) are going great guns. If you have suggestions about the peppers (red cups), she’d love to hear them!

Here’s a look at the black plastic Anne put down while hugely pregnant, along with the hoops she and Kailen installed on a pleasant February day. They’re waiting for a nice March day to put the clear plastic on the hoops.

To the right is a picture of a coldframe (thanks Pixabay!) that’s not quite like what Anne hopes to build, but it gives you an idea of what one can look like.

To finish things off, here’s a list of the cherry tree varieties Anne is ordering and the planning resources she mentioned during the podcast.

 

#18 Making the Most of Your Library

#18 Making the Most of Your Library

#18 Making the Most of Your Library

by Jolene Philo & Anne Fleck | Home Again

Anne’s favorite books: The Harry Potter Series and anything Jane Austin

Jolene’s favorite audiobook series is Sue Grafton’s Kinsey Millhone series narrated by Judy Kaye. The first 3 books in the series are A Is for Alibi. B Is for Burglar, and C Is for Corpse. Her favorite print book is Peace Like a River by Leif Enger.

Anne’s favorite audiobook is The Graveyard Book by Neil Gaiman with accompaniment by Bella Fleck.

A few other resources that deserve a shout out: